Why Calm Feels Uncomfortable: Breaking the Chaos Cycle in Emotional Eating

In this episode, Alana dives into the surprising comfort many of us find in chaos, especially when it comes to healing our relationship with food. She explores why, for so many women, crisis mode can feel safer than calm, and why stability and ease might actually trigger discomfort or even self-sabotage. Alana shares personal experiences, client stories, and powerful insights into the cycle of emotional eating, the allure of starting over, and our deep-rooted addiction to survival mode. She unpacks the difference between self-awareness and true healing, highlighting the importance of both self-compassion and self-responsibility. 

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Takeaways

  • Chaos can feel safer than the process of healing.

  • Many women identify more with their struggles than their successes.

  • Self-awareness alone does not lead to healing.

  • Real healing requires self-compassion and responsibility.

  • Stability can evoke feelings of anxiety and discomfort.

  • Boredom is often misinterpreted as negative.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Chaos and Healing

04:57 The Cycle of Chaos and Identity

09:47 Self-Awareness vs. Healing

13:56 The Importance of Action in Healing

18:34 Navigating Stability and Calmness

22:24 Embracing the Good and Staying Present

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